I did a good deal of thinking and - after having to explain things to several different people who keep finding out things through the "grape vine" - I decided to go public. Officially, that is. The following is copied and pasted directly from my face book page(s):
Most people have heard this by now. Others may have guessed it. So I’m going to come right out and say that
there are a few big changes going on in my life right now.
The first one is that [X] and I split up and are getting a divorce. We split up in March, actually. We live in separate residences and everything. We are sharing custody of our daughter and keeping a civil – and as friendly as possible – relationship. The reasons of our split are between us and ONLY us (in other words, no matter how good you feel your intentions are, please try to refrain from poking and prodding for details, or spreading around what you think you ‘know’ [remember, there are three sides to every story: his side, her side, and the truth]. It shouldn’t matter to you who’s ‘fault’ it is, and there are no ‘sides’. This sucks for us both, and it’s as simple as that). I ask and I’m sure that he’d agree that things remain civil between all of our friends and family, whether it’s toward us or each other. This is truly a trying time for us both.
The second one is that I have left the LDS (Mormon) Church. I don’t think it’s “bad” at all, nor will I participate in any slandering of it (in fact I feel that criticizing someone for their beliefs is very wrong and not at all okay in God’s eyes), but I have done extensive research – on BOTH sides – and I don’t feel it’s true. If you’re curious as to why that is, I’d be happy to tell you, but it is NOT up for debate, so please don’t try. Also, I’d appreciate it if those of my LDS friends would refrain from saying to themselves or others “Oh, well I *know* she knows it’s true, she’s just going through a hard time/she just wants to do her own thing/whatever.” The fact of the matter is, you do *not* know that I know it’s true, and the only two people who know what’s in my head are me, and God. I *don’t* know that it’s true; I’m actually pretty darn certain that it’s not. This was a hard and painful decision for me to make, and certainly not one that I made lightly. So please, please refrain from criticizing me for it. Just like that was a hard decision for me to make, posting this was a pretty hard thing for me to do.
I guess now I should tell you a little about who I am, and who I’ve decided to be:
I am a Christian, plain and simple. I believe in Christ and God and the Holy Ghost. I believe Christ is our Savior and by coming unto Him is how we are saved. I am also a mother, and I love my baby girl more than anything in this world. I am a daughter and a sister, and a *person*. I have recently discovered vanilla chai and coffee and I *love* them, but only drink them occasionally. I have now worn an off-the-shoulder shirt and a tank top out in public, and felt neither overly revealing, ‘bad’, or ‘evil’ in any way. I still love my sleeved shirts, but I don’t think tanks are bad and will probably wear them from time to time on hot days. I do not do drugs. I do not drink. I do not smoke. I am considering getting a tattoo, but I’m not sure on that one yet (I’m waiting til my 21st birthday. If I still want it then, I will get it. If not, I won’t). I will always try to be respectful of someone else’s beliefs, no matter what they are. I will always care about others’ feelings, but not always at my own personal expense. However, I do believe there are perfectly appropriate times for such sacrifices to be made, and I will do so accordingly. I am still kind and tender-hearted, and hurtful words still cause me pain. I will always do what I can to make others happy, and I’m often told I’m ‘too nice’, but I want to stay that way. I’ll be your friend, even when you’re not mine, and I’ll support you when you need my support, even if I don’t have yours. I will try to live my life in a Christ-like way, though I readily admit that I have my own flaws that I need to work on.
That’s pretty much it, for now. Oh, but I do have to say one more thing: I’ve heard from a few sources that there are some that think my ‘Energy Therapy’ is the cause of my recent ‘changes’. Well, I just wanted to let everyone know that I haven’t had any sessions since before [X] moved out. True, he asked me to take a break and I said no, but it was a moot ‘no’ anyway, since I stopped getting clients right about then. Not that I mind; it’s been nice to nanny and such, as I’ve been doing to pay the bills. I’ve had a couple ‘free’ sessions, but none of them actually consisted in Energy Therapy at all, just explaining what it was. I hope that clears that up, but if it doesn’t, oh well.
That’s all I have to say for now. Take from it what you will. If you find you can no longer be my friend, for whatever reason, you know where the delete button is. But if you’re reading this and I call you ‘friend’, at least know that I’ll be here for you, no matter what, regardless of whether you delete me or not. :-)
Goodnight everyone.
-Amber
The first one is that [X] and I split up and are getting a divorce. We split up in March, actually. We live in separate residences and everything. We are sharing custody of our daughter and keeping a civil – and as friendly as possible – relationship. The reasons of our split are between us and ONLY us (in other words, no matter how good you feel your intentions are, please try to refrain from poking and prodding for details, or spreading around what you think you ‘know’ [remember, there are three sides to every story: his side, her side, and the truth]. It shouldn’t matter to you who’s ‘fault’ it is, and there are no ‘sides’. This sucks for us both, and it’s as simple as that). I ask and I’m sure that he’d agree that things remain civil between all of our friends and family, whether it’s toward us or each other. This is truly a trying time for us both.
The second one is that I have left the LDS (Mormon) Church. I don’t think it’s “bad” at all, nor will I participate in any slandering of it (in fact I feel that criticizing someone for their beliefs is very wrong and not at all okay in God’s eyes), but I have done extensive research – on BOTH sides – and I don’t feel it’s true. If you’re curious as to why that is, I’d be happy to tell you, but it is NOT up for debate, so please don’t try. Also, I’d appreciate it if those of my LDS friends would refrain from saying to themselves or others “Oh, well I *know* she knows it’s true, she’s just going through a hard time/she just wants to do her own thing/whatever.” The fact of the matter is, you do *not* know that I know it’s true, and the only two people who know what’s in my head are me, and God. I *don’t* know that it’s true; I’m actually pretty darn certain that it’s not. This was a hard and painful decision for me to make, and certainly not one that I made lightly. So please, please refrain from criticizing me for it. Just like that was a hard decision for me to make, posting this was a pretty hard thing for me to do.
I guess now I should tell you a little about who I am, and who I’ve decided to be:
I am a Christian, plain and simple. I believe in Christ and God and the Holy Ghost. I believe Christ is our Savior and by coming unto Him is how we are saved. I am also a mother, and I love my baby girl more than anything in this world. I am a daughter and a sister, and a *person*. I have recently discovered vanilla chai and coffee and I *love* them, but only drink them occasionally. I have now worn an off-the-shoulder shirt and a tank top out in public, and felt neither overly revealing, ‘bad’, or ‘evil’ in any way. I still love my sleeved shirts, but I don’t think tanks are bad and will probably wear them from time to time on hot days. I do not do drugs. I do not drink. I do not smoke. I am considering getting a tattoo, but I’m not sure on that one yet (I’m waiting til my 21st birthday. If I still want it then, I will get it. If not, I won’t). I will always try to be respectful of someone else’s beliefs, no matter what they are. I will always care about others’ feelings, but not always at my own personal expense. However, I do believe there are perfectly appropriate times for such sacrifices to be made, and I will do so accordingly. I am still kind and tender-hearted, and hurtful words still cause me pain. I will always do what I can to make others happy, and I’m often told I’m ‘too nice’, but I want to stay that way. I’ll be your friend, even when you’re not mine, and I’ll support you when you need my support, even if I don’t have yours. I will try to live my life in a Christ-like way, though I readily admit that I have my own flaws that I need to work on.
That’s pretty much it, for now. Oh, but I do have to say one more thing: I’ve heard from a few sources that there are some that think my ‘Energy Therapy’ is the cause of my recent ‘changes’. Well, I just wanted to let everyone know that I haven’t had any sessions since before [X] moved out. True, he asked me to take a break and I said no, but it was a moot ‘no’ anyway, since I stopped getting clients right about then. Not that I mind; it’s been nice to nanny and such, as I’ve been doing to pay the bills. I’ve had a couple ‘free’ sessions, but none of them actually consisted in Energy Therapy at all, just explaining what it was. I hope that clears that up, but if it doesn’t, oh well.
That’s all I have to say for now. Take from it what you will. If you find you can no longer be my friend, for whatever reason, you know where the delete button is. But if you’re reading this and I call you ‘friend’, at least know that I’ll be here for you, no matter what, regardless of whether you delete me or not. :-)
Goodnight everyone.
-Amber
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