Unexpectations

I am very happy that an UNexpectation of mine has been met.  Yes, I realize that's not a real word. I don't care.  I just made it one. :-)

Anyway, my unexpectation has to do with my last post.  In my last post I wrote about how I'd posted a note to Facebook explaining that X and I are divorcing and going over some of the other changes in my life (ie, my leaving the Mormon Church).  Well, I expected it to upset several people.  And it did upset a few, of that I'm certain.  But what I didn't expect (aka, my unexpectation) was for it to inspire many people to let me know I have their support.  And that's exactly what it did.

It started with a text.  A friend I consider to be very dear to me, L, texted me and told me she was sorry she hadn't been their for me, and that she wanted me to know she loved me dearly and would stand by my side and be a good friend, as she always has.  I was touched.  I almost cried, in fact.  Then I got a few messages on Facebook, all saying similar things.

Then the comments started trickling in, and I was absolutely amazed. I got dozens of responses, and thus far only one of them has been negative in any way (and even that one was justly deserved, in my opinion; every word she spoke was truth, and I brought it on myself)!  I was shocked, speechless, and touched beyond words.  I honestly expected to be yelled at, criticized, and belittled as I have so often over the past couple of months.  But the love and support that poured in was completely unexpected.  So far it's the best met unexpectation I've ever had. :-)

A few posts ago (in the post 'Crucible') I wrote about how this separation would sort out my true friends from those whose intentions aren't so pure.  Well, it certainly has, and I'm so glad to say that I have many more true friends who seem to genuinely care than I had thought. :-) So, if you're one of those friends, thank you.  Thank you for your love, your support, and for accepting me for who I am.  I can't tell you what it means to me.

In the mean time, I'll work on having more unexpectations.  When you have expectations you are often let down.  However, when you stay positive but have many unexpectations, you just might be pleasantly surprised!